Your Birth Archetype Results
Your score offers a first glimpse into how you naturally prepare, respond, and make decisions in big life moments, including pregnancy and birth.
This isn’t about boxing you in...
It’s about helping you understand your natural strengths, the patterns that may show up under pressure, and the qualities you may want to grow as you prepare for birth.
Some of you already know that you are ready to take the next step on your journey to birth and birthing yourself as a mother, and for those of you who feel that certainty already, then I invite you to go all in on yourself and your baby and book into one of my upcoming group or private courses or invest in my self-paced online course by clicking below
Now are you ready to learn more about your archetype?
Take note of the score you were given when you finished the quiz or check your email to find it and now look below and click the read more link to drop down the details of your archetype.
I would highly recommend that you also read all of the other archetypes and notice where you would like to learn how to empower yourself and be flexible around all the 5 archetypes.
Meet the 5 Birth Archetypes
The Planner
Score range: -20 to -13
If you are The Planner, you likely move through big life moments by preparing well, thinking ahead, and trying to create as much clarity as possible. You feel better when things are organised, when you know what is coming next, and when you have done everything you can to set yourself up well. Pregnancy may have brought out this part of you even more. You may already have read the lists, chosen the essentials, thought about your birth preferences, and started imagining how you want things to unfold. You are often the woman who wants to do this well. Not because you are shallow or controlling, and because you care deeply. You want to feel informed. You want to feel ready. You want to know you have given this important rite of passage the thought and respect it deserves. There is something beautiful in that. The Planner brings devotion, responsibility, and intention into birth preparation. In pregnancy, this may look like booking the classes early, keeping notes from appointments, creating a birth map, and wanting to know what to expect in each phase of labour. In birth, this may show up as feeling calmer when you know the plan, when your support team is on the same page, and when you understand the purpose of what is happening around you. And if birth takes an unexpected turn, that is often where your growth edge appears. Imagine you have spent time preparing for a spontaneous physiological labour, and then suddenly an induction is being discussed, or labour is unfolding in a way you did not expect. For The Planner, this can create a deep feeling of inner wobble. Not just because the plan changed, and because when the plan changes, it can feel as though your sense of safety changes too. You may start wondering whether you missed something, whether you should have done more, or whether you are somehow getting it wrong. The invitation for The Planner is to remember that preparation is powerful, and perfection is not required. Birth is not a performance. It is not a test of whether you planned well enough. Sometimes your deepest strength will not be in sticking tightly to the original vision, and in your ability to breathe, adapt, and stay connected to yourself when the path changes. The archetype you may want to learn from is not one that throws away structure, and one that softens inside it. One that remembers that true preparation also includes flexibility, self-trust, and surrender. The Planner is deeply capable. When she learns that she does not need to do birth perfectly in order to do it powerfully, she becomes incredibly grounded.
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The Nurturer
Score range: -12 to -5
If you are The Nurturer, you likely move through life with a tender awareness of other people. You are often the one who notices how everyone else is feeling, what they may need, and how to make an environment feel softer, warmer, and more comfortable. You carry a natural generosity. You may be thoughtful in the little things, making sure your partner feels included, caring about your care provider relationship, wanting your birth team to feel appreciated, or even imagining the atmosphere of the room and how to make it feel loving and calm. There is something deeply beautiful about this archetype. The Nurturer brings heart into birth. She brings warmth, softness, and emotional intelligence. She often creates a sense of connection around her. In pregnancy, this may look like thinking not only about your own experience, and about your baby, your partner, your family, and everyone who will be part of the journey. You may naturally take care of others even while going through one of the biggest transformations of your own life. And that is also where your challenge can sit. Because sometimes The Nurturer can become so attuned to everyone else that she slowly leaves herself out of the picture. In a birth setting, this may look like sensing that the midwife is busy and not wanting to be difficult. It may look like agreeing to something quickly because you do not want tension in the room. It may look like needing pain relief, rest, more explanation, or a different environment, and yet softening your own truth because you are trying to keep things comfortable for everyone around you. Imagine a moment in labour where a suggestion is made that does not fully sit right with you. You may feel that hesitation inside, and yet instead of voicing it immediately, you might smile, nod, or delay because part of you is trying to preserve harmony. Later, you may realise you needed more space, more information, or more support to say what you really wanted. The invitation for The Nurturer is not to become harder. It is to include herself in her own care. To realise that advocating for yourself does not make you selfish. Asking for what you need does not make you demanding. In fact, your birth may call you into a deeper, fuller version of love, one that includes you too. The archetypes you may want to grow from are the parts of you that set boundaries, speak clearly, and remember that your comfort, consent, and voice matter just as much as anyone else’s in the room. The Nurturer is a beautiful archetype for birth because she brings connection and presence. And when she learns to offer some of that same devotion back to herself, she becomes even more powerful.
The Guardian
Score range: -4 to +4
If you are The Guardian, you are likely someone who wants to understand before you surrender. You tend to move through important experiences by observing, researching, thinking carefully, and looking for what feels safe, sound, and trustworthy. You are not usually someone who just goes along with things without considering them. You want to know your options. You want context. You want to feel that what you are saying yes to makes sense. The Guardian often carries a deep intelligence into pregnancy and birth. She may be the woman who has listened to the podcast episodes, looked into the evidence, reflected on different care pathways, and quietly gathered information before making a decision. She may not always be the loudest in the room, and she is often deeply perceptive. She notices tone. She senses when something feels off. She has a strong inner radar for safety and truth. In birth, this can be an incredible strength. It can mean you make thoughtful decisions, ask meaningful questions, and create a birth environment that supports your nervous system. You are not naive, and you are not careless. You care enough to prepare. You care enough to think deeply. And because safety matters so much to you, this archetype can sometimes lean into overthinking or anticipatory fear. Imagine hearing a difficult birth story late in pregnancy. Another woman might brush it off, and you may carry it. Not because you are weak, and because your mind is wired to scan for what matters. You may begin thinking through scenarios, planning for possibilities, or wondering what you would do if that happened to you. In labour itself, if something changes unexpectedly, The Guardian may need time to understand, process, and feel reassured before she can soften again. This may also look like moving between trust and doubt. One part of you may know your body is capable, and another part may still be scanning for what could go wrong. One part of you wants to let go, and another part is still gathering evidence that it is safe to do so. The invitation for The Guardian is not to stop valuing knowledge. Your wisdom is one of your gifts. The deeper invitation is to let safety become something your body feels, not just something your mind is trying to secure. To move from information alone into embodiment. To remember that while preparation matters, there comes a point where your nervous system needs soothing, your body needs softness, and your mind needs permission to rest. The archetypes you may want to strengthen are the ones that trust, flow, and stay present in the moment instead of trying to solve every possibility ahead of time. The Guardian becomes incredibly powerful when she learns that she does not need to carry every possible outcome in order to be safe.
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The Free Spirit
Score range: +5 to +12
If you are The Free Spirit, you likely move through life by following what feels aligned, meaningful, and true for you. You value authenticity. You are often drawn to experiences that feel soulful rather than formulaic, intuitive rather than overly structured. You may resist being boxed in, and you likely want your pregnancy and birth journey to feel like your own, not something copied from a standard script. There is often a depth to The Free Spirit that others may not immediately see. She may be open-minded, reflective, creative, and guided by feeling. She may be drawn to birth as a rite of passage, not just a medical event. She may care deeply about energy, environment, intuition, symbolism, and creating an experience that feels personal and meaningful. She often brings beauty, individuality, and openness into the way she prepares. In pregnancy, this may look like being drawn to alternative models of care, seeking a birth environment that feels more aligned, or wanting to explore holistic practices that connect you back to your body. You may not want to do things simply because they are the norm. You want them to feel right. And yet The Free Spirit can sometimes resist structure so much that she avoids the very preparation that could support her. Imagine a woman who deeply values physiological birth, trusts her intuition, and wants a calm, beautiful experience, and keeps putting off practical learning because she does not want to feel restricted, overwhelmed, or pulled into fear-based information. Or perhaps she keeps saying she will “just feel into it” later. Then labour begins, and she finds herself needing more grounding than she expected because there are decisions, sensations, or scenarios she never quite prepared herself to navigate. This archetype does not usually need more fear. She needs grounded support that still honours freedom. She needs preparation that feels spacious rather than rigid. She needs to see that practical tools do not take away from intuition, they can actually protect it. When The Free Spirit has structure that feels supportive rather than controlling, she often thrives. The invitation for The Free Spirit is to blend vision with embodiment, intuition with education, and openness with preparation. The archetypes she may want to learn from are the ones that commit, organise, and follow through. Not to become more conventional, and to become more resourced. The Free Spirit carries beautiful medicine into birth. She reminds us that this journey can be meaningful, instinctive, and deeply personal. And when she pairs that inner knowing with grounded preparation, she becomes both free and steady.
The Advocate
Score range: +13 to +20
If you are The Advocate, you likely move through life with a strong inner compass. You know when something feels right and when it does not. You are often willing to question, challenge, and speak up, especially when something feels unfair, pressured, or out of alignment. You value truth. You value autonomy. You value being fully informed and having the right to make decisions about your own body and baby. This is a powerful archetype in birth. The Advocate is often the woman who asks the extra question, who notices when language is coercive, who wants to understand the full picture before agreeing, and who is not easily silenced by hierarchy or authority. She may feel strongly about informed consent, respectful care, and making sure her voice is part of the room. She often brings courage and clarity where others may shrink. In pregnancy, this may look like actively seeking independent education, questioning blanket policies, or making decisions that go against mainstream pressure if they do not feel right for you. You may be deeply protective of your experience, and that is not a flaw. It is part of your strength. And yet every archetype has a growth edge. For The Advocate, it can be what happens when strength becomes tension. Imagine labour takes an unexpected turn and your carefully held preferences are not possible in the way you imagined. Or imagine you feel dismissed, rushed, or not properly heard. Your body may respond by going into fight mode. You may become more alert, more activated, more determined to hold your ground. Sometimes that is exactly what is needed. And sometimes the nervous system can become so focused on battling the external environment that it becomes harder to soften into the internal process of birth. This archetype does not need to become quieter. She does not need to become more compliant. Her invitation is subtler than that. It is to discover that real power in birth is not only in pushing back, and also in knowing when to breathe, when to regulate, when to soften the jaw, soften the belly, and stay connected to her body while still keeping her voice. The archetypes she may want to learn from are the ones that trust, receive support, and allow moments of surrender without losing their self-respect. The Advocate is a vital archetype because she protects what matters. And when she learns that softness is not weakness and surrender is not defeat, she becomes a deeply grounded force.
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Remember, you are not just one archetype!!!
You may see yourself strongly in one of these descriptions, or you may notice parts of yourself in several of them. That is completely natural.
This quiz is not here to put you in a box. It is here to help you better understand the patterns you naturally bring into pregnancy, birth, and other big life experiences. With that awareness, you can begin to appreciate your strengths, notice where you may get stuck under pressure, and intentionally grow the qualities that will support you most.
Birth does not ask you to become a completely different person. And it may ask you to become a more flexible, aware, supported, and resourced version of yourself.
Thank you for taking this quiz, I hope it has helped you and I would love to support you more on your journey to birthing your baby and birthing yourself as a mother! If you are ready to jump in and learn more about how to be more flexible in the archetypes CLICK HERE and take the next step by booking into one of my course options
Shari xx